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By Samar Minallah | News & Politics | Published 16 years ago

In certain components of NWFP, the customized of sar paisa is commonplace. The bridegroom, to be able to marry, will pay a sum that is large of to your girl’s moms and dads. This custom transforms her into an item of financial value, devoid of thoughts or emotions. This living, breathing item of value can in fact be offered and re-sold for a greater price — without a family’s ‘honour’ being at risk. In fact, the larger her value, the greater ‘honour’ her family members gains.

Maimoona from Parachinar wound up in Kohat prison whenever she declined become juggled in one guy to some other for an increased cost. She ended up being offered down to her relative for 50,000 rupees in wedding. Meanwhile, her paternal relative got an offer of one-and-a-half lakh rupees, that he easily accepted on her behalf behalf without her permission.

The only option kept before Maimoona would be to escape along with her spouse. Having no written evidence of their marriage that is legal wound up in Kohat prison. Maimoona’s brothers and cousins that are paternal attempting their utmost to have her out from the jail so that you can regain their lost honour and cash.

Niyaz Khela, that is inside her fifties that are late belongs to Karak. She had been offered off in wedding to a guy much older to her. Nevertheless inside her teenagers then, her spouse would often beat her over trivial issues. So that you can getting away from life of misery, she eloped with another guy who she had met while she choose to go to fetch water.

Being forced to select from the chances of being killed and residing life of torment with a guy that would continue steadily to mistreat her, Niyaz Khela find the previous.

Barefoot, without any material control, she, along together with her paramour, hid within the crevices associated with tough hills of Karak, dodging the killers that chased her. “The gunshots didn’t frighten me personally because we preferred death to returning to a husband that is abusive” claims Niyaz Khela. But, after 2 yrs of hiding, Niyaz Khela’s second spouse handled to cover 10,000 rupees to her ex-husband, that has been twice the quantity initially compensated by the very first spouse as ‘bride cost. ’ In this way not merely ended up being their pride elated but his missing ‘honour’ ended up being additionally regained by means of monetary revenue.

In Karak, a married girl has a greater price on the market because her ex-husband, if alive, needs to be paid for their economic loss. Unless, he’s offered a greater cost than exactly what find he previously initially taken care of the lady, he gets pighore (taunt) through the community.

The male perpetrator is usually killed and the woman sent back to the parents, who try once again to marry her off if money is not paid as compensation. The amount of money they get from her marriage that is second is down to her aggrieved ex-husband.

Therefore, right right here, more males are killed this kind of offences because a woman, even when she actually is abandoned or divorced because of the spouse, continues to have a cost available in the market. The person may also be acquitted if he will pay a lot of cash as payment to your aggrieved celebration. Consequently honour, in this context, is connected more to wealth than to one’s behaviour that is moral.

As Niyaz Khela confirms, ‘Moozh watan kay topak aao paisa balaa dee, ’ (inside our town weapons and cash are leaders! ). It’s been a lot more than four years since Niyaz Khela abandoned her village and settled in Islamabad as a migrant that is economic. Her 2nd spouse left her for another girl who he purchased at a affordable cost.

Residing in a little ghetto, exercising her traditions in an international land, Niyaz Khela needed to work tirelessly to marry down her three kids, all on the very own. She worked being a labourer, making bricks when it comes to high-rise structures of Islamabad to pay for a bride for just one of her sons. On her younger son, she got a bride in swarra (change of females) being a trade along with her very very own child.

It really is interesting that while honour could be tarnished with a small slide of behavior, traditions like swarra and sar paisa, where a lady is employed being an item of value or a musical instrument of creating alliances, bring honour. Niyaz Khela, like a great many other Pukhtuns, doesn’t have option but to adhere to the customs her forefathers practiced. If a Pakhtun doesn’t work based on Pakhtunwali, she or he is not any longer considered a dhroon Pakhtun (an honourable Pakhtun). It is extremely difficult also for a tremendously gallant Pakhtun to manage the pighore that is venomous. The way that is only free oneself through the wrath of pighore would be to show his/her allegiance to ‘Pakhunwali’(the Pakhtun rule of conduct), which may also be during the cost of someone’s life.

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